Individual and Relationship Counselling. Gay and Lesbian Counselling.
choosingchange is another way of saying
I am ready to face myself, or
I want my relationships to be better. I am committed to offering dynamic and effective information that helps you bring psychological awareness that is
enlightening and transforming, in personal relationships and in the workplace.
SERVICES
I specialise in working with individuals, couples (marriage and defacto) & groups interested in improving work and personal relationships.
Feeling confident helps create an environment where obstacles are challanged and overcome more easily. The counselling processes or modalities I employ are designed to give you confidence through —
— raising awareness,
— discovering choices, and
— exploring possible changes.
Solving a problem
In the real world, the only reason for coming to counselling is to find relief or make a change or solve a problem. Apart from everything else most people come to see me to:
- improve their relationship
- resolve a conflict at home or at work
- achieve greater intimacy in their marriage
- get a better job
- get a promotion at work
- negotiate a life transition— (divorce, break-up, death, accident)
- discover their sexual identity
- cope with grief or loss
- overcome addictions (cigarettes, alcohol, marijuana)
Other ares of counselling include:
- Relationships
- Conflict resolution
- Individuals, Couples and Groups
- Career Coaching
- Career Enhancement
- Life Transitions
- Life Coaching
- Gay and Lesbian Issues
- Coming Out
- Grief and Loss
- Addictions
Visit the websites
for general counselling information
Counselling Sydney, or
for more specific
Couple Therapy information
Call for more info —
1300 667 996, or
Use the email link above.
You are welcome to ask questions or to make an appointment.
Counselling rooms
Sydney CBD, Suite 510, Level 5, Ashcroft Court, 147 King Street.
What is counselling about?
Counselling and psychological therapy are about gaining knowledge about yourself in order to better operate in the world. This can sometimes be about a specific issue, or more generally about the whole of your life.
Functioning well in the world of relationships (family, friends, loved ones, work colleagues...) makes life easier and exciting. This contributes to you have a greater sense of wellbeing.
Understanding how you operate, what are your ways of seeing things, as well as having an understanding of how other people operate, means you are going to be better equipped to cope if you find yourself in difficult situations.
Sometimes people have difficulty understanding that what they want is not necessarily what other people want. Finding ways of compromising and letting everyone have their desires met (the win-win situation) is an important start on the road to better living.
Exploring the psyche and self is a most rewarding activity. People often say they are just beginning their lives, or they feel re-born after the experience of counselling. Finding someone to help that process begin is the start of an incredible journey. When you are ready to travel that is when you will travel. You will know when you are ready.
Why see a counsellor?
You will know when you are ready to see a counsellor — these things may help you decide —
"The person is pretty much what he says he is." (Hall & Lindzey, 1966, p.498)
I believe the person who asks for assistance from a counsellor has already done a lot of personal self development before thay even make the phone call to make an appointment.
The process starts the moment you feel uncomfortable or out-of-sorts for longer than you might expect to feel when something goes wrong.
Counselling and therapy can help you:
- Have a greater working relationship with your colleagues
- Make your personal relations more rewarding, smoother and kinder to your soul
- Embrace your close friends, even those you find you yourself drawing away from
- Make great friends with the people you meet
- Understand and come to terms with issues of grief and loss
- Clarify your life goals and help you materialise long forgotton dreams.
Depending on what things you want to talk about will result in the kind of help provided. Would you like to learn assertiveness skills and like to feel a greater sense of self?
Counselling can help all kinds of issues. Sometimes people want behaviour changes; others like to delve into the meaning of life. In many cases re-telling (reframing, finding another way of seeing ) the stories we have been told (or have we have been telling ourselves over many years) can make significant changes to how we feel about our future and ourselves.
Many families have patterns of behaviour that have negative outcomes for all members of the family... from great-grandmothers to tiny babies. Family therapy is helpful here and this can be carried out with individuals, couples or whole families.
Finding a way of having choices is the key to having a satisfying, fulfilling and rewarding life
The counselling I offer is mainly directed to these groups —
- Marriage or relationship issues
- Self Assertiveness
- Individual, couple and family
- Grief and Loss
- Life Coaching for exams and goal achievement
- Addictions — gambling, drinking, other drugs, sex
- Gay and Lesbian
- Sexuality and gender issues
- Gender roles
Counselling can help you find out how to find your choices.
If you find things you want unattainable what do you say to yourself? Some people have a belief that they will never succeed and so expect failure. They see failure at every turn.
Turning these thought patterns around so the expectation is success makes huge differences to their lives.
Counselling and psychological therapy can start this process and teach you to do this yourself.
The way people act is often the way they expect themselves to act. As children we assume things we are told by our parents are true. Only years later do we discover that there are other realities.
- Find out the truth of your reality.
- Are some of your ideas about people and life mistaken beliefs?
- Wanting to understand what your partner is saying and wanting your partner to understand you is crucial to getting on.
- Check out if they have really heard you when you speak to people. Repeat back what you think you heard when other people speak to you. Clarity is everything.
- Thinking irrationally can lead to irrational behaviour.
- People do not always do what we want.
- Learning how to cope with our unfulfilled expectations can make a difference to you outcomes and your life satisfaction.
- All of us take on the expectations of society at large. Gay and Lesbian people can take on the expectations of society at large that are not appropriate. When they do this, heterosexist ideals can manifest unattainable goals.
- Internalised homophobia plays havoc with self-esteem.
Couple therapy
is designed to reintroduce integrity and intimacy into the relationship.
This is manifested through involving both people in a caring, considerate appraisal of all aspects of marriage — romantic, psychological, physical, and spiritual.
Being alone does not mean you need be lonely. Solitude can be a time for healing.
Learning relaxation techniques, walking, yoga and other calming exercises can help in bringing understanding around aloneness.
When you experience the feeling that being alone means you are unloved, unlovable or bad, I would urge you to challenge those feelings.
Nine-times-out-of-ten you will find you have many loveable qualities, often obscured by your own negative thoughts and actions.
QUALIFICATION DETAILS
Bachelor of Counselling and Human Change
Clinical Member of Counsellors and Psychotherapists Association NSW (CAPA ID 3219)
Register Member of PACFA 2061 - Psychotherapist and Counsellors Federation og Australias
Counselling, Life Coaching, Psychotherapy
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