Upper North Shore
Hypnotherapy
& Counselling Service
SERVICES
HYPNOTHERAPY & COUNSELLING
For individuals and couples who want to…
Gain emotional freedom
Develop rewarding relationships
Communicate effectively
Take control of your life
Eliminate negative patterns of behaviour
Create the life you want
* Emotional issues * Relationships * Self Esteem
* Communication * Weight Issues * Anxiety
* Habits * Addictive Behaviours * Confidence
* Stress Management * Quit Smoking * Phobias *Personal Issues
BENEFITS OF HYPNOSIS
Hypnosis allows you to ditch the old emotional baggage you may have been carrying so you can move forward in new directions, with confidence and ease.
Hypnosis is a skill that you can apply to any area of your life, for the rest of your life if you wish. It can be utilized in enlisting that creative side of yourself, setting and achieving goals and targets, enhancing sports performance and, in the fast pace of modern city living, it can be incorporated in to your daily routine as part of good, healthy stress management. And it’s drug free!
CONSULTATIONS
The number of session for hypnotherapy can vary from person to person, but generally most issues can be taken care of in 3 to 4 sessions. Couple counselling or individual counselling also varies depending on the circumstances.
During therapy a range of techniques may be employed depending on the circumstances of each individual and may include; Hypnosis, Counselling, NLP, Time Based Therapy, Visualisation, Metaphor, Transacional Analysis, Ego State Therapy, Regression, Gestalt, Emotional Freedom Therapy.
The first half hour of the first session is free. This is to ensure you are completely comfortable with the therapist, without any financial commitment.
It is important to remember that therapy is a dynamic team effort between therapist and client. The therapist cannot ‘fix’ you, but is the facilitator of healing, providing the environment and guidance so you can make the changes.
Please allow two hours for the first session. Thereafter the sessions are 1 to 1.5 hours in duration.
I accept cash or cheque or credit card.
Private health insurance rebates are available with some funds. Please check with your fund before making a booking.
Structure Of Fees:
1st session $160.00.
Subsequent sessions $130.00.
QUALIFICATION DETAILS
QUALIFICATIONS, CREDENTIALS & ASSOCIATIONS
Diploma of Clinical Hypnotherapy
Diploma of Counselling
Certification in…
Advanced Hypnotherapy - Cal Banyan
Clinical Hypnosis & Strategic Psychotherapy - Michael Yapko
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Time Based Therapy
Neuro Relationship Therapy
Ego State Therapy
Sexual Issues
Identity Issues
Provocative Energy Techniques (PET)
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
Registered member of the Australian Society of Clinical Hypnotherapists
Clinical member of the Australian Counselling Association
PRACTICE PHILOSOPHY
It is the philosophy of this practice to…
*Provide the highest quality of care in a friendly
non judgmental manner
*Constantly improve the level of knowledge
with ongoing professional development
*Assist clients to grow, develop and heal
*Strive for excellence
If you would like to know more or are ready to take the first step in your healing journey, then please call Wendy Bunning at...
Inner TranceFormations
Upper North Shore
Hypnotherapy
& Counselling Service
Tel: 94561190 or 0419163251
Email: wendy@innertranceformations.com.au
web: www.innertranceformations.com.au
FURTHER INFORMATION AND ARTICLES OF INTEREST
IN SEARCH OF HAPPINESS
Once upon a time, in a far away village, an old woman was searching for something outside her house. She was on her knees diligently running her hands in the soil and grass. Someone saw her and asked, “What are you looking for?”
“I am searching for a ring,” the old woman replied. “Then I will help you look,” said the passer by. And some other people who were passing saw and also stopped to help look for the illusive ring. But search as they might, no one could find the ring. A young boy, who had also stopped to help the woman in her quest asked wisely, “Where did you loose this ring?” to which the woman said, “I lost it in inside the house, young man.” A bit surprised the young fellow asked, “Then why are you searching out here in the garden.”
And the old woman looked up at the young boy and spoke, “Because inside it is dark.”
In our eternal search for happiness, like the old woman, so many of us search outside ourselves for that which can only be found within. We say, When I get the new house, car, boat, promotion, new partner, new dress, new shoes, praise from the boss, enough love from my partner, etc. then I’ll be happy. And it never ends, because once we have attained the goal, we feel happy, but the feeling is only transient, very soon it begins to wane and we start searching for something else to fill the void, to make us happy. Finding happiness in this way can be an expensive business! Not to mention frustrating, as the internal state we seek is just that – internal. If you don’t go within you go without!
Many things contribute to our state of emotional health. Some of them are beyond our control and in these times it’s helpful to remember our connectedness to all things, life lessons or contracts – in short our spiritual beliefs. There is always a gift or lesson if we can only open our eyes through the pain in order to see it. Whilst we can’t always be in control of external events, we can always control the way in which we respond.
Our early childhood is where our basic life patterns, beliefs and our emotional habits are formed. As children we are literally like a sponge, and we take in everything without censoring. Largely, in these early years, our learning is at a subconscious level, which is why sometimes we have difficulty seeing why we have so many problems. We see the end result of our beliefs, actions and patterns, but are left wondering why we are in such a mess. Therapy is often useful to sort out this stuff, allowing us to evaluate what works and what doesn’t, so we can see what it is that is causing us so much anguish and pain. This enlightenment in turn becomes our springboard for change.
Here are five important keys to attaining happiness.
Key number 1. Self esteem.
Self-esteem plays a large part in how we feel. Let me explain what I mean by self esteem. Self-esteem is what we believe about ourselves to be true. The way we judge ourselves. It describes our values, beliefs and attitudes towards ourselves. Having good self esteem means feeling good about yourself – even when you mess up. Especially when you mess up. Further, it does not rely on someone else telling you how wonderful you are, or what a great job you do. It is called SELF-esteem because it comes from inside.
Here’s a quick test to see how your self-esteem is.
1. I often worry what my friends will think of me. True/False
2. I hate making mistakes. True/False
3. I often feel worthless. True/False
4. When my boss or partner criticizes me I feel devastated. True/False
5. I find it hard to accept myself as I am. True/False
6. If only I was/had …fill in the blank. True/False
7. I am a perfectionist. True/False
8. I am often critical of others. True/False
9. I often feel unloved. True/False
10. I never show my real/true self to friends. True/False
If you answered ‘true’ to all or some of these questions then you may have some self-esteem issues.
If self esteem is about what you believe to be true about yourself (and it is) here is the good news. Beliefs can be changed. Have you ever had the experience when you were very small and you lost a tooth and you put it under your pillow, and what happened? By next morning the tooth fairy, bless her, had tipitoed down from fairyland and collected the tooth to be planted - so it could grow into a star, of course. You knew it was true, because they left you a dollar just to prove it. And couldn’t you spot a new star in the sky the next night? The one that shone just a bit brighter than all the rest. Well, back then, you believed that to be true. But what happened to that belief? Where is it now? What happened is, that you learned some other things, and you realized one day that mum or dad had a lot to do with the dollar coin under your pillow. One day it simply wasn’t true for you anymore, so you no longer believed it. But for a long time, whilst you were small and you believed it, the tooth fairy did exist for you. Your belief changed. This is important because our beliefs are not fact; our beliefs are just that – beliefs
Key number 2. Live in the NOW.
Another factor in the quest for happiness is our ability to live in the NOW moment. Echkart Tolle states in his wonderful book, The Power of Now, “You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You find yourself by coming into the present.”
Some people replay the ‘old times’ like the gramophone record that’s got stuck.
Many of us seek to escape from past hurts and pain, by resorting to the use of drugs, alcohol, sex, or that pair of new shoes, again like the old woman looking outside for what is within. Often, in looking to escape, we inadvertently replay past hurts which keeps the pain alive so we can run away from it. It becomes a habit. No amount of drugs, alcohol, sex or new shoes will change the past because it no longer exists, except in our minds. It’s a memory. The only moment there is is now. All you have is now. All there ever is is now.
Sometimes, however, we get stuck. Something happened back there, in the past, and we didn’t process it too well, or not at all, and so it festers like a bad sore. In these cases, therapy is often needed to clean out the wound so it can heal allowing forward movement into the present. Our memories are indeed powerful anchors to the past, but we need not be emotional slave to them any longer. With skillful help we can gain emotional freedom so we can be present in the NOW.
The headstone reads, “Here lies someone who was going to be happy tomorrow”.
Key number 3. Tame the negative inner voice.
People who learn the art of happiness have also learned to tame that negative inner voice Richard Bandler (co-founder of NLP) once said that he has a very profound mantra that he repeats over and over to himself to still that inner terrorist – eventually it becomes quiet. The mantra reads, “Shut the **** up!” In order to find peace of mind we need to take stock of it.
Key number 4. Forgiveness.
The Oxford English Dictionary, 1998 says, “Forgiveness: To stop feeling angry or resentful towards someone for an offence, flaw or mistake”.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha.
What does this mean? How do we do it? Forgiveness is as attitude. Forgiveness is a state of mind. Pure and simple. It’s a choice. Forgiveness does not mean that we condone what has happened, nor is forgiveness for the other person. It is a gift we give to ourselves. It’s our ticket to freedom. If we choose to withhold forgiveness then we risk being burned by the hot coal. Resentment, anger, hurt all eat away at us, and we may spiral into depression and ill health. It keeps us rooted in the past, and holds us back from gaining emotional freedom and being present in the NOW.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is an ongoing process, because if the person we are forgiving is worthy of our forgiveness today then they are tomorrow and the next day and the next day. Forgiveness is not a single event. It’s an attitude and an ongoing process.
A Chinese proverb states, “He who seeks revenge should dig two graves."
"Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names." John Fitzgerald Kennedy.
For many of us self-forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to accomplish. Those two adversaries, guilt and shame, shadow our every move. It was Heinrich Heine that said, ‘God will forgive me; it is His trade’. Let me ask you, would your god forgive you? Forgiveness being his trade, the answer is yes. By not forgiving yourself, you are placing yourself higher up the divine ladder than God. If this resonates with you then it may be time to step down a rung or two and seek help in letting go.
Key number 5. Take responsibility.
How many of us can relate to this:
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I fall in. I am lost…I am hopeless. It isn’t my responsibility. It takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in this same place. But, it isn’t my responsibility. It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I see it is there. I still fall in…it’s a habit. But my eyes are wide open. I know why I am here. It is my responsibility. I get out immediately.
Key number 5. Take responsibility.
How many of us can relate to this:
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I fall in. I am lost…I am hopeless. It isn’t my responsibility. It takes forever to find a way out.
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in this same place. But, it isn’t my responsibility. It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the pavement. I see it is there. I still fall in…it’s a habit. But my eyes are wide open. I know why I am here. It is my responsibility. I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the pavement.
I walk around it.
I walk down a different street.
(Wise author unknown. Excerpt from Soul Purpose – Lyndall Briggs & Gary Green.)
Take responsibility, walk down another street!
The bottom line:
Happiness is an inside job. It comes from inside. It’s an attitude. Sometimes, like the old woman in the story, when we look deep inside ourselves it is dark and uncomfortable, but only by going through the darkness do we ever truly get to the light. If you need help finding the light within yourself then take responsibility for where you are and get some help.
WHAT IS HYPNOSIS?
Hypnosis allows access to underlying, unresolved issues that are often illusive to our conscious mind and, as such, remain beyond our normal level of awareness. Resolving issues at their source allows emotional healing to take place at the deepest levels of our being, so you can create the profound changes you want in life.
Hypnosis is a completely safe, normal state of consciousness. Virtually anyone that wants to be hypnotized can be, although some find it easier to reach the very deep states than others. However, for change to take place only a very light state of hypnosis is required.
To look at what hypnosis is, we need to examine what consciousness is. If we think of the mind as a computer, the conscious mind, or cortical regions of the brain, is the software. This is the part we do our thinking with. We reason, work thing out, analyse, deduce, make choices with our conscious mind. The conscious mind can only hold up to seven bits of information at any one time.
The hard drive of our computer, is then, the subconscious mind, which is deep in the limbic system. Whereas the conscious mind can hold only seven bits of information, the subconscious mind can do any number of things with out conscious awareness. The subconscious mind is responsible for regulating breathing, heartbeat, temperature regulation, thirst, sex drive, fight or flight responses to name but a few of its’ functions. It also happens to be where emotions are generated from and where long term memory and beliefs are laid down. This is also the place where all change happens. Until a change has been accepted by the subconscious mind, then we haven’t really changed.
So if we want to make changes in our lives, it stands to reason that the fastest way to allow that change to happen is by gaining access to the subconscious mind. We call this hypnosis.
Consciousness itself can be measured in frequencies or cycles per second, called hertz. Brain monitoring shows that during normal waking state our brain frequency is somewhere in the region of 14 to 40 cycles per second or hertz. The more anxious we become the higher the frequency. Researchers call this level of consciousness Beta.
During hypnosis, relaxation or daydreaming, however the brain does something rather interesting. The frequency level slows to around 7 to 14 cycles per second. Around 7 or cycles per second it could be said that you are in a reasonable level of trance or hypnosis. This level of consciousness has been called Alpha.
The next level of consciousness is called Theta. In the Theta range the brain frequencies range from 3.5 to 7 cycles per second. Deep relaxation, deep hypnosis, sleep and dreams happen here.
The Delta frequency is between 0.25 and 3.5 cycles per second and we call this coma. Not much is known about Delta, but it would appear that the body shuts down as much functioning as possible in order to heal itself. Although we loose consciousness at this depth it has been shown that some people in coma can actually hear what is being said to them.
So hypnosis, then, can be measured by brain frequencies. It works so well because it allows access to the subconscious mind, which is where all change happens. It is also the seat of origin for our emotions, and where long term memories and beliefs about ourselves are stored. Normally the subconscious mind is heavily guarded by a filter system, which allows some things in and blocks other things out if it doesn’t fit with what we already know or believe about ourselves to be true. For example if I want to change a behaviour or a habit, then I can just tell myself I won’t do that any more and therefore I’ve changed….Not on your life. Because my filter system, called the reticular activating system, says, ‘I don’t believe that’ and it literally throws it out of the subconscious mind. In other words I don’t believe it to be true at a subconscious level. This is the reason why will power is so hard and takes so long to get the results you want, because the new belief about yourself must get past the reticular activating system and be installed in the subconscious mind. Once acceptance has happened, and providing there are no other subconscious objections then the changes can happen quickly, easily and effectively.
Wendy Bunning is a registered member of the Australian Society of Clinical Hypnotherapists and clinical member of the Australian Counselling Association.
Wendy can be contacted at:
Inner TranceFormations
Upper North Shore Hypnotherapy and Counselling Service
Tel: 94561190 or 0419163251
Email: wendy@innertranceformations.com.au
Web: www.innertranceformations.com.au
All articles are the intellectual property of Wendy Bunning
Counselling, Hypnotherapist
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