Toni-Anne takes a mindfulness-based approach to coaching, using emotion focused and cognitive frameworks on which to build greater levels of awareness as to the origin of psychological and emotional difficulties. Mindfulness is about paying attention, on purpose, in the spirit of non-judgment and curiosity. By being present with what is, thoughts, feelings, memories, physical sensations, you can open up the opportunity for greater insight and understanding into the nature of the mind-body, which helps to create pathways of possibility.
In making space for what is happening now, the good, the bad or unpleasant, we face long-standing patterns of avoidance and distraction, strategies aimed at reducing pain and suffering in the now, but ultimately serve to make life harder in the long-term. Like struggling in quick sand, the fight makes you sink all the quicker! By opening up to what is, making room for what is felt and experienced in the now, as opposed to fighting or resisting your current experience, it is possible to reconnect with your true self and live your life on purpose.
“Inner peace is the key: if you have inner peace, the external problems do not affect your deep sense of peace and tranquility...without this inner peace, no matter how comfortable your life is materially, you may still be worried, disturbed, or unhappy because of circumstances.”
― Dalai Lama XIV
Can Coaching Help You?
Answer the following questions and rate them on the scale below:
- Not true of me
- True of me some of the time
- True of me most of the time
1. I find it difficult to express opinions, ideas and wishes openly and honestly.
2. I tend to compromise my own values and desires to avoid upsetting others.
3. I have difficulty ‘owning’ my successes, dismissing them or attributing them to luck.
4. I feel as though I am living my life according to someone else’s rule book or formula.
5. I feel like I am an imposter in my own life or, I put on a mask to get through each day.
6. I find myself worrying excessively about whether or not others like me.
7. I worry excessively about others expectations of me .
8. I feel unable to make choices about what I want from my life.
If you found yourself answering 'true of me most of the time' to any of the above questions then it is likely that you will benefit from life coaching.
You are probably already familiar with the signs that things could improve in your life. You may be feeling pressure to be someone you are not, you may find yourself doing whatever you can to fit in, or you may feel compelled to stick with a particular job, lifestyle, or relationship you out grew long ago. You may have dismissed the hopes you had for your life, believing them to be out of reach. But the good news is that you don't have to continue down the road where you have given up on your hopes and dreams. By seeking the assistance of a life coach, you can start to reclaim your authenticity once again and move your life in a completely different direction.
(adapted from 'The Art of Inspired Living' by Sarah Corrie)
QUALIFICATION DETAILSBachelor of Psychology (honors)
Registered Psychologist
Assoc MAPS
Master Practitioner of NLP
Counselling,
Life Coaching,
NLP,
Psychotherapy
