Restricting our Power of Choice.

There are nine Avoidance Behaviours which we use at different times in order to survive painful and stressful situations. Deeply set in our Brain is a section called the Central Integrative Area (CIA) whose main function it is to ensure our physical survival, regardless of our happiness. Ancient knowledge to understand ourselves better actually came from the Sufi Masters in Afghanistan about 2000 years ago. It is based on the ENNEAGRAM. Its purpose is to help us to see ourselves in the mirror of our own subconscious, to identify compulsions and most importantly to bring them out in the open so we can be free to be ourselves.

There are nine different ways we use to defend and protect “Self” in the form of avoidance behaviours. They are:
1. I avoid Anger
2. I avoid Having Needs
3. I avoid Failure
4. I avoid Being Ordinary
5. I avoid Emptiness
6. I avoid Deviance from the Rules
7. I avoid Pain
8. I avoid Weakness
9. I avoid Conflict.

These Avoidances surface as self-justification of some kind and usually isolate us from the very ones we want to be close to. They put us into “Victim Status”. The consequence is that we sabotage what we truly desire and experience a sense of loss – loss of personal choice.

The problem is, we mistakenly accept our superficial habits for self-understanding. We fail to see that our surface habits not only misrepresent the true self, but are often also compulsive and damaging. They limit us. Regardless of what else we may think it is, a habit is still a choice. A clear understanding that we often recycle a harmful avoidance behaviour can go a long way to our recovery.

If your Enneagram is #7 (Avoiding Pain), you might appear to be the self-confident life of the party, when in fact you may be feeling lonely and not your real self at all. Or with Enneagram #5 (Avoiding Emptiness), your compulsion to study and learn deprives your family of your presence and may also be depriving you of really living and experiencing your family, which could fill your emptiness if the avoidance behaviour were defused. We assume we already know ourselves, but we are often tricked by deeper layers of consciousness!

For example, we may desire to lose weight but the underlying belief system whispers “You need this weight for your protection” or “You need to eat a lot to be healthy”. These messages from the past act as blockages and we feel stuck. Many of our strongest intentions come about because of our beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs are blocked by our AVOIDANCE of the real issues. The purpose of the Avoidance Process is to identify the key Avoidance Behaviour and defuse what we are avoiding so we can regain the power of personal choice, fulfillment and freedom. From personal experience and observing outcomes with my clients I can confidently state that clearing the key Avoidance Behaviour results in amazing events and relationship enhancements in our lives.

The Kinesiology known as “Three in One Concepts” founded by Gordon Stokes and Daniel Whiteside (refer Body Circuits, Pain and Understanding) has devised a simple yet safe and non invasive process to identify the Avoidance Behaviour with the use of Muscle Monitoring. This technique enables the practitioner to step by step clear the blockage in a gentle way. The practitioner lightly places her hands on the clients forearms and “reads” the ensuing signals and then continues to bring the whole Being into Balance. A particularly effective and unique strategy includes identifying the Age of Cause when the Avoidance came “on-line”. The practitioner then clears the origin of the problem and the individual experiences a dynamic positive energy flowing in its place. This restores personal power of Choice.

The objective of accurately identifying and defusing our main Avoidance Behaviour, using the fascinating process of kinesiology, is to heal the weakness in ourselves and go on to discover and enjoy our true strengths!