The most painfully confusing topic in our lives often seems to be in the realm of the heart. No matter who we are, what we know or what we think we know why is it that when it comes to matters of the heart, we are often overwhelmed by confusion? In truth, it is not matters of the heart that is confusing; it is actually matters in the mind that confuses us. Our heart always knows what it wants, to love with abandonment and or to truly be happy. If it was up to our hearts, these intentions would be carried out with no regards to consequence. However, we allow our mind to withhold our heart from these core wish fulfilments and re-prioritise our values. We are confused due to our minds’ attempt to ‘figure out what is best’ or to ‘think’ the heart into submission.

The mind, despite its well meaning intentions, is frequently tarnished by past beliefs learned throughout our upbringing and influenced by social conditioning. Whether it was a domineering mother, an absent father, sibling rivalry, an uncaring or abusive guardian, a lot of us have experienced some form of deep seated pain during our childhood. This pain is carried on to our adult years, influencing our behaviour today. If you were spared the painful childhood, the confusion of puberty and the teenage years can often instil or strengthen insecurities, fears, shame, guilt, anger and other negative emotions experienced. The pain one felt either through a single traumatic event or repeated experiences are enough to form a belief within an individual about themselves. These beliefs, although subjective and illusive, are expressed as ‘real’ behaviours by individuals and manifested as a ‘reality’ in their lives.

The influence of culture, religion, the media and associates can strengthen or weaken these beliefs. However, the pain in our past has been recorded and held on a deeply emotional (unconscious) level. That is why despite discussing it or ‘knowing better’, we still often can not seem to change or ‘undo’ these set beliefs. In order to change them effectively, we need to make the changes and release the pain on a deeper level than what we are consciously and habitually aware of.

Through utilising hypnotherapy and NLP (Neuro - linguistic programming), changes are made in the realm of the unconscious. It is the most effective and deepest way to change behaviours, fears and habits. It is the way back to your heart…