Holistic Health Solutions

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The therapeutic methods I use are designed to help you get a sense if your problem is caused by:

Emotions - examples are worries and anxiety about sexual performance, sadness or anger as a result of having been hurt previously, fear of physical or emotional pain, feeling emotionally tired and depressed, or other unexpressed emotions which have built up inside.

Blockages - some examples are closing or appearing sexually disinterested to protect yourself, not knowing how to open to your partner emotionally, disengaging to cope with repeated rejection, frustration and dissatisfaction, or feeling not ready or too vulnerable to engage romantically with a partner. Blockages may take more subtle forms, such as decisions to withdraw affection, giving up, or avoiding sexual issues by keeping busy in other areas in your life.

Negative thoughts about sexuality - such as limiting beliefs about sexuality and your body, cultural beliefs may generate guilt or shame which can create barriers to sexual pleasure.

Other causes - for instance the effects of traumatic sexual experiences, or patterns of compulsive and impulsive sexual activities and behaviours.

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PROCESSING EMOTIONS

Picture your body as a container filled with a sea of emotions. During fine weather the sea is flat, but a storm of anxiety can create a charged atmosphere inside. When emotions have become active, a response can usually be felt somewhere in the body. A traumatic upheaval or crisis may involve a whole set of different emotions flooding the entire body. Stressful emotions often build up, leave their mark and do not only contribute to sexual problems, but can also create them. This is why I focus on identifying and processing emotions, especially, the ones related to the sexual issue you are experiencing.

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MINDFULNESS

In addition to counselling and psychological interventions, I use holistic methods which allow you to gain more awareness of your body. Mindfulness techniques can help you monitor emotions and regulate sexual drive. This way of working on yourself creates bridges between the mind and the body. You learn to pay attention and 'listen' to what goes on inside your body which builds skills and confidence, the prerequisites for solving sexual problems.

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BODY-MIND CONNECTION

Mindfulness fosters the body-mind connection. Not only do you develop more awareness of your body, but you also enlarge your palette of physical sensations, expand the range of emotional sensitivities and forge stable bonds enhancing intimacy with your partner. I consider that establishing links to a broad range of feelings develops sexual and emotional confidence.

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SUMMARY

The style of therapy I offer is based on a thorough understanding of emotional mechanisms and sexual patterns, because the internal (emotions, thoughts & sexual drive) governs the external (relationships to others). I have found that there are usually precise reasons why somebody suffers a particular sexual and/or relationship issue. Looking for the causes is helpful because, once identified, interventions can be targeted appropriately. Using effective methods, you will gain clarity about your problem and you will understand what you can do to alleviate it. I give you tools that empower you to help yourself.

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WHO CAN BENEFIT FROM THIS THERAPY?

Individuals and couples interested in having a fulfilling sex life. I help people who experience one or more of the following:

• Low libido, absent sex drive
• Orgasm difficulties, inability to climax
• Desire discrepancy (one partner wants more)
• Emotional detachment, difficulties with intimacy, relationship fears
• Painful sex during intercourse, vaginismus
• Sexual issues related to gynaecological problems (i.e. urinary tract infections, menstruation, contraception, fertility, pregnancy, childbirth, menopause)
• Premature ejaculation & delayed ejaculation
• Performance anxiety, erection problems
• Sexuality and the aging body
• Physical, sexual and emotional abuse
• Traumatic sexual experiences (rape, incest, molestation)
• Compulsive & impulsive sexual behaviours (i.e. compulsive use of erotica and/or internet for sexual purposes, compulsive cruising & multiple sexual partners)

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