There are times when life can be difficult to cope with and we think about seeing a counsellor to help us find our way. Ironically, it is often at times like this that we doubt ourselves and wonder if counselling is what we really need. When should you see a counsellor? While ultimately the decision is yours, these are some of the things you might want to think about before you make your decision:
Some Common Myths about Counsellors
- "Counsellors give answers": If you're looking for someone to tell you what to do with your life, then a counsellor may disappoint you. Counsellors are there to empower you to find your own answers, not provide the answers to you.
- "I should be strong enough to cope on my own": The truth is, no one can cope with everything on their own. We are all interdependent. Sometimes, we need help. A good counsellor may be exactly what you need to help you learn to help yourself again.
- "You should only see a counsellor when you are facing a major life crisis": If something is standing between you and your ability to get the most out of your life, that's reason enough to see a counsellor.
Some Common Reasons Why People See Counsellors
Sometimes we can turn to a family member or trusted friend when we have problems. At other times, these may be the people we want to confide in the least. A counsellor, though compassionate and empathic, is not a part of your personal life. This can give you the confidence you need to open up and get to the root of your problems. Some of the more common reasons why you might want to see a counsellor include:
- Chronic low-grade depression ("feeling the blues").
- When a specific situation is affecting your ability to effectively carry out your daily life.
- When you are unable to make important decisions.
Some of the more serious reasons why people see counsellors include:Family or relationship difficulties.
- Coping with death, separation or divorce.
- Domestic violence (either as a victim or perpetrator).
- Sexual abuse (including verbal).
- Severe depression.
- Stress.
- Anxiety, either severe or chronic.
- Anger management.
- Gambling, alcoholism and other addictions.
Remember: counselling is not a lifetime commitment. You may be surprised to learn that some weighty problem you couldn't shake off on your own can be dealt with in just one or a few counselling sessions. On the other hand, you may feel that regular counselling can help you find your way through life's woods.
"When should I see a counsellor?" The best answer to that question is probably, "When you think you need to."
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